Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Turning down sex?!

Prior to getting married, I couldn't fathom a time or a situation
where I would turn down sex. It didn't seem possible that there could
be an opportunity to unite with my wife and I wouldn't feel up for it.
I used to always joke, "Every hour on the hour!"

It's sort of surprising then that in the busyness of life, I find
there are moments when I'm not that interested. In the moment, I just
don't feel like it, but looking at it through the lens of my
premarried days, it's crazy. Usually, it's because I'm in a good
groove working through emails or I'm a bit anxious about getting some
ministry prep done or I'm in the middle of Sportscenter or a game. My
premarried self would want to kick my ass for writing that last
sentence. Funny how that works and it's a little convicting thinking
about my availability to my wife.

More and more I understand why my spiritual director always tells me
to look for my libido to act up when I slow down or go on a personal
retreat. It's so interesting how busyness can suppress the libido and
how eventually it needs to be expressed in some way. It makes sense
then that without slowing down and in the midst of busyness, it can
get expressed in some pretty destructive ways.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Home Depot

It's funny how Home Depot has become less overwhelming since becoming a homeowner. 

I'm sure the switch from walking in there with the mentality of "eh, I could always just get the landlord to take care of it," to "this is my house!" probably helped.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Just in passing...

Sometimes I think that a small part of my cross to carry in life is to
sit behind giant people at Mass :P.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

What do you do when ...

... you notice that one of your high school leaders has a huge hickey on their neck when they're leading a small group discussion?  Part of me wants to just call him out in front of the whole group, but that's probably not very helpful.  Or loving.